1. The Friend That Gets You
She’s the one that’s been through what you’ve been through. Whether it’s the bullying you endured in school, the really bad break-up, the physical violence in your relationship, the difficulty maintaining female friendships, the loneliness of success, or the frustrations of singleness, she can relate. You can call her at 6 o’clock in the morning or 11:30 at night, heart full of emotion, and she’ll listen. She might even bring over ice-cream right then and there. She knows what you need because she’s been there. You don’t need to explain much because she already understands. And every woman needs to feel understood. That’s why this friend is important.
2. The Friend That’s Always Down
She’s the one you’ll call up an hour before a party and she’s ready to roll. She’s the one who’ll book a flight ticket with you for a much needed get-a-way, or pitch in for that 13-hour road trip. She’s funny, easy-going, and “down for whatever,” which makes her really good company. You’ll take her anywhere because you’ll know you have a good time. She’s your comrade, your side-kick, your road-dog, and the importance of her companionship cannot be underestimated.
3. The Friend That Empowers
She’s your biggest fan. She’s at every graduation, recital, performance, and play. She’s usually in the front row cheering, but when she’s in the back, you’ll still hear her lovably, obnoxious voice. When you start to doubt yourself, she’ll be there telling exactly why you’re the perfect candidate for the job or why you are surely going to make it. Even though she has her own thing going on, she will use her Facebook page, Twitter statuses, and Instagram to promote YOU. She is unselfish with attention and secure. And you’ll find that she can do for you what many other women cannot do.
4. The Friend That Tells You Like It IS
She’s the one that will tell you when the hair ain’t looking right. Or the skirt’s just a bit too tight. She’ll tell you when you’re being a little stubborn or immature. She’ll also sit you down and tell you when you need to stand up for yourself or let a certain somebody go. But she’s no “hater.” And how do you know? Because when you talk to her, you don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed. When she talks to you, you want to take her advice because you know and feel that she has your very best interest in mind. She wants people to respect, love, value, and celebrate you so she’s going to do what she can to help you get what you deserve. That’s why she’s important.
With girlfriends at a Nigerian wedding!
When it comes to friendships, quality over quantity ALWAYS. If you find yourself often feeling lonely, sad, or misunderstood, it might be time to reevaluate the quality of your friendships. “Friend” is a powerful word and “friends” should be adding something valuable to your life. So who do you want to keep and who might you want to let go? Who do you need to reconnect with or who would you like to get to know?
I’m curious to hear your thoughts so don’t forget to comment! Love yall!